How Does Anger Rise To Calm Your Mind?

When people are angry, the heart rate will accelerate in 7~10 seconds. Heartbeat is the most important expression. It is also an important factor that affects other reactions. The frequency of breathing will also accelerate, blood will flow to the muscles, blood pressure will rise, and the body will begin to become nervous.

Then we will start to get angry. How can we calm ourselves at this time?

Psychologists have found a few tactics to cope with anger, of course, it may not take effect immediately, but if we use these methods to deal with contradictions, or try to communicate with people, when we face a sudden conflict, these ordinary training may play a miracle.

Tactics 1: correcting misunderstandings in cognition

That is to control irrational thinking. It can lead to vague images in our minds, which make us lose judgement and analytical ability, and are more likely to be angry with others.

Common misunderstandings include: arbitrarily, overlooking other positive factors because of a negative factor; "overgeneralization" is to generalize a group of people with a person's characteristics and expand the contradictions; subjectively, judging others' behaviors from their own point of view, such as a colleague's being late, and deciding why he is definitely not thinking about the actual situation; "drama mode", no matter how the truth is, I believe that certain situations will happen, like a screenwriter, directing life; labelling, putting a label on someone's tag in advance, and limiting its judgement to this premise.

Listen attentively to others, including your physical performance: looking at each other's eyes and following the rhythm of your opponent's speech, this helps you find your differences.

Patience is to listen to the correct information, for example, a very important date, the other side is late for a long time, if you see him angry accusations, the quarrel is likely to break out.

If you give him a chance to explain, maybe the result will be different.

From his point of view, perhaps he encountered special circumstances along the way, and was also very worried.

Give constructive suggestions to the other, demanding reality and accuracy rather than giving him a lesson.

No matter what the matter is, do not run away from the topic, do not give the other side a conclusion, you know, no one wants to be told, "you are such a product."

Tough advice usually injures others, causes him to feel conflicted, and fails to establish a dialogue. Even the frustrated one can even get revenge. And the innocent person always thinks you are good to others.

To avoid confrontation, we can wait for both sides to calm down and try to communicate again.